My name is Mo. I am a typical middle aged female empty nester! A year ago I had a hectic life! My husband and I shared our home with my 91 year old mother (a saint by all accounts), my 24 year old son who graduated with a degree in engineering (Saint-like potential, only because St. Peter needs engineers) and a lovely 15 year old chocolate Labrador Retriever (who God bred the colour in and left the brains out). By all accounts we were happy and the house was alive!
Now I have a happy home for two. My husband and I are trying to come to a new normal.
Heidi, the chocolate Labrador left us in December 2013. She actually started an exodus. I miss her beyond belief. When I got up in the morning, she was waiting for me, she followed me around until I left for work. She soldiered on during the day looking after my Mother! Heidi made sure when I arrived home from work she was sleeping just inside the door so I had to fight my way back into the house.
My Mother kept saying she was waiting for God to send the train. She boarded the Train on January 4, 2014 in the middle of a snow storm. It was an early train at 3 a.m. and I didn’t hear it roll into the station. I will wish that time back for the rest of my life.
My handsome Engineer decided it was time to launch out on his own and his brother, our Son Two, needed a roommate to share expenses. The Engineer is the youngest of our three boys. I tried to hold on to each of them as long as possible. Son One is well established on his own, married to a beautiful woman and together they have one bouncing baby boy. Son two is quite established himself and has a nice home not far from our house. He offered the Engineer a great deal to move in with him. Off went my Engineer!
Our new normal does not come easy. I love a full house.
My first attempt at a new normal was to clean up my Mother’s room and closets. I needed to do that anyway. At 91, my Mother was no longer worried about her closets. They were blocked with clothes, shoes, keepsakes, dead plants, makeup, hundreds of pairs of nylons and bibles. Priority number one was to sort out the closet. Priority one took about three months to conclude.
Priority two, two small closets were available and my husband wanted to reclaim the closets and the room for a walk in closet. I always wanted a walk-in closet, but I have to do things in my own time! I needed to remember the room with my Mother in it, so I compromised instead. It would stay as my Mother’s room and I would move my clothes from the walk-in closet in the basement to upstairs in my Mother’s room. I figured that change would be enough for now and it would speed me up in the morning. I think I should have been more agreeable with my husband! Two small closets do not absorb the clothes from a walk-in. As a result I compromised, again. I would only take my seasonal clothes for work and my nicer casual clothes upstairs. Time went on and my blazers and my sweaters couldn’t fit in the closets, so some made it to the coat closet.
Fast forward to today
I get up in the morning, sigh and say to myself, “I have nothing to wear and if I do, I don’t have a clue where it is!” What is a girl to do? Cram it all in two small closets and begin wearing an outfit a day! By each day’s end, if it feels small, or uncomfortable, looks out of fashion, I can take it to the goodwill bag and get over it. By the time the “I want to wear everything in my closet” project is over, I will see what I have left, what I need to replace and whether I can leave the bedroom as it is or bring in a contractor for a walk in closet.
Project start date: March 9, 2015
Project end date: Uncertain I estimate one or two months
Budget: I don’t have a budget and I am going through year two of adjusting to a smaller household, so I wish to be flexible.
Rules: Each item is only to be worn once during the project period. Exceptions are made for shirts and camisoles and sweater tops. When all skirts and pants are worn, they can be recycled in order to finish wearing the remaining clothing. All worn clothing must be relocated to basement walk-in to be hung for post project use or placed in goodwill bags. Business trips are exempt and best clothes from which ever closet can be used and replaced to its respective closet thereafter.
As I tend to wear casual clothes on weekends from my chest of drawers, the project runs from Monday to Friday.
I will provide a daily account of my wardrobe and sanity until the project concludes!
Here’s hoping I conclude the project and abide by the rules.